Relationships don’t just test love — they test boundaries. We often hear that being “understanding” is the key to a healthy marriage, but what happens when that understanding turns into self-erasure?

Reader Brenda is tired of her husband’s ex-wife using the grandkids as an excuse to come around. Amy and T.J. weigh in on boundaries — at any age. (Photo illustration: Yahoo News; photo: Getty) I’ve ...

DEAR ABBY: My husband is still in contact with his ex-wife. He gave her a huge divorce settlement because he felt guilty. She supported him financially through medical school, and he feels he needs to ...